Thursday, May 31, 2012

Homey Don't Play That

First, a little housekeeping!  For those of you who read my blog regularly, hello to those three people!  My goal for this blog is to post twice a week.  However, this does not always come to fruition.


Why?  Well, LIFE happens.  I like being on the computer (especially Twitter) but there are more important things going on here in the Mossey household.  Things like building train tracks, making dinosaurs out of Play Doh, digging in the sandbox, and going to the pool.


So, this summer I will try to uphold my end of the bargain but please be understanding if I don't.  I promise what I do post will be entertaining, enlightening and life changing!  Okay, well maybe not ALL of those things, but it should give you a few chuckles anyway.


On to the main course....


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Now that I am a parent, I can break my life into two categories:

BK - Before Kids

AK - After Kids

Before kids, you only have to worry about you.  What I mean is you only have to worry about how to spend your time and with whom to spend it.  You decide if someone is your caliber person, therefore someone with whom to spend your time.

After kids, you worry about your children.  You worry about the character of the people that influence your kids.  Why type of person do you want your children to have relationships with?  Is that particular person going to be a positive or negative influence on your kid?

In looking back over my brief almost four years as a parent, I can see how I have started "separating the wheat from the chaff" so to speak. I see things differently as a parent.

BKIll-mannered
AK: Disrespectful

BK: Selfish
AK: Poisonous 

BK: Quirky
AK: Crazy

BK: Mean Spirited
AK: Heartless


BK: Manipulative
AK: Bullying

If one of these adjectives describes you, now that I am a parent, sorry! Homey don't play that.  Now that I have kids the rules have changed.

After kids, my tolerance for BS dropped, like to almost zero.  Things that were important before kids seem silly after holding that sweet little baby in your arms. With sudden clarity, you realize you will to do whatever you can to love and protect them.  Sometimes this means "trimming the fat" from your relationships.

My kids are just that - kids.  They are young, innocent and impressionable. They are discovering the world and their place in it.  I want to give them the best advantage possible and try to keep them from negativity as long as I can. 

Jeff and I are trying to raise our boys right.  What does that mean?  Well, it certainly doesn't include any of those negative adjectives listed above.

Not sure if I can sum up what "raising our kids right" means to us but I'll give it a shot. To us, it means using your manners, showing compassion, being respectful, loving God, working hard, not giving up, thinking before you act, don't say anything if you don't have anything nice to say and treating others as you would like to be treated.

It doesn't matter if you are related to me or not.  If you are not a good person, then you are not a good person.  It's as simple as that.  

Am I being harsh?  Am I being to hard-headed?  Maybe.  But since God lent these two wonderful little people to me, it's my choice as to how to raise them and with whom they can interact.

So if you are acting a fool or not a nice person, just know, Homey don't play that.

10 comments:

  1. kids change everything don't they?

    Hope those disrespectful, crazy, heartless ppl hear your message loud and clear!

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    1. Yes, I hope so too! I just felt like it needed to be said, you know?
      Robbie, always good to hear from you! :)

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    1. Hi Bonnie! Thanks for the kind words and for visiting! :)

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  3. Good for you. If only more people took the responsibility of parenting more seriously. Boy, would we live in a different world.

    Thanks for sharing. Stopping by from SITS.

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    1. I appreciate the kind words. Thank you!
      Glad you stopped by for a visit! :)

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