Tuesday, April 1, 2014

What Century Are We In?

While listening to talk radio this morning, there was a woman who was talking about Susan Patton, i.e. The Princeton Mom.

Ever heard of this lady?

Ms. Patton wrote an opinion piece in the Wall Street Journal about how woman should spend 75% of their time searching for a husband and 25% of their time on everything else. She states the most important thing for a woman is marrying a good man. Ms. Patton goes on to say that women should be married by the time they finish college. Because, let's face it, you are the best you are ever going to be at this point and things will only go down hill from there.

She wants you to forget about studying for your ACT's and instead study the art of looking your best and finding your husband.

Um, excuse me? What?


What century are we in?

Can you guys check the date for me? It is 2014, is it not?

We didn't suddenly go back in time to the 1950's, did we? Or better yet. Are we back in prehistoric time where cavemen just hit their women over the head with a club which declared "mine"?

Reminds me of the ridiculousness of the Barbie doll that said, "Math is hard."

Don't get me wrong.

I have nothing against marrying a good man. I did the same thing myself.

But forgetting everything other than preparing yourself for marriage and finding your husband. That's a little cray cray.

There is so much more to being a woman than finding a husband. 

Some woman do not even want to get married.

Quelle horreur!

Women can go to college. Women can climb Mt. Everest. Women can become Olympic snowboarders. Women can organize a toy fundraiser. Women can start a book club. Women can run a 5K. Women can be doctors. Women can be mathematicians. Women can be police officers. Women can be writers. Women can be their class president. Women can be the President.

As for finding a husband, usually that just happens. 

It's called Life. 

You meet someone. Maybe at a frat party or a museum gala or a softball game or at the grocery. You get to know them by spending time with them. You commit to a serious relationship, then you decide to get married.

And 75% towards preparing yourself for marriage and finding a husband. 

Really, Ms. Patton? 75%? 

Because 75% means that a young woman would have to spend 18 hours a day searching for her mate and only 6 hours to do everything else.

Whew! You gotta be busting your chops to get all of that other non-essential crap, like eating, peeing and sleeping, crammed in there.

But wait.

If you have less than 6 hours of beauty sleep, then won't you look tired? Maybe bags under your eyes? 

Would your future husband think the "bags under the eyes" screams "life long mate"? Does the "I need more sleep look" say "I am a beautiful woman please choose me as your wife"?

*Eye roll.*

It's a shame that Ms. Patton believes in such an antiquated theory. It makes me sad to think her words are reminiscent of an outdated way of thinking when women didn't have as many options or freedoms.

Good thing I know lots of beautiful, strong woman who have daughters who are not raising them to think this way.

Solidarity, ladies. Solidarity.


  1. I saw her in an interview and just sat there with my mouth open! Totally unreal!!

  2. OMG - She is going on my wall of shame.

  3. Whoa. I can't believe ANYONE would believe that way anymore. I don't think anyone should give anything of themselves for LOOKING for a husband. Life goals should be to maybe find one (if you want) but first go to college and/or get a good job. This is crazy and it's insane that she can even say that out loud to the world.

    1. Candace, I agree with you. I wonder if this woman is married and if she has any daughters...

  4. I'm not sure what she's thinking about why it must require that much effort to "find" a good husband. I know I probably had it a little easier than most--I wasn't looking whatsoever and was barely even nice to him when he first starting showing interest--but I can't imagine this being helpful or practical...at all. I honestly figure if you just live life, grow, and are generally nice to people, if you want to get married, the vast majority of people will. I mean, there's obvious things like don't be actively mean to every guy you meet...but it's not that hard...

    1. Rachel, I think this lady has fallen off the crazy tree and hit every branch on the way down. Yikes!

  5. I actually went to college during a time when getting a M.R.S. degree was quite normal. My dorm roommate got one and lived happily ever after. But that was 30+ years ago. I, too, was married by the time I finished college but that was only because I had dropped out and then returned at the encouragement of my husband so that I could pursue my dream that eventually led to me becoming a college professor during a time when 80% of the professors were white men. So, you can see, different time, different mindset and I'm proud of the fact that I bashed my head against that glass ceiling and am now able to mentor young women who also want to be professors. My blog is about taking the best of the midcentury lifestyle and incorporating it into a modern world. The Princeton Mom's message is NOT one of those things that I would call the best--unless we say that it is best left in the midcentury...


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